Life Is Not About Checking Off Boxes

I want to know who in the hell came up with the mentality that life is a checklist.

___Enter world

___Grow Up

___Go to College

___Get a Job (Benefits, benefits, benefits!!!)

___Get Married

___Have Kids



Seriously, life was set up for us before we even had a chance to fully live it. Except nowadays, people are becoming more vocal about wanting to punch these boxes off the shelf. Some people are having kids and then getting married. Some are getting married and never even having kids (GASP!). Some aren’t getting married at all. Some are retiring at early ages because they broke the damn mold of what a “successful” job “should” be and crushed it well before their golden years. And you know what? Some people are dying before they even get a chance to see or experience any of these opportunities above.

Life is NOT a serious of boxes to check off. Life is an OPPORTUNITY. An opportunity to do whatever it is that makes YOU happy and free. Not what Joe Schmoe Societal Hoe put out into our world as requirements for a happy life.

If it’s not apparent how severely depressed a LOT of people are, you may actually live in a bubble. Take it from someone who doesn’t watch the news, but watches people instead, the amount of people who battle mental health issues because of the comparison game is outstanding. We are made to believe that if we check off those boxes, we’ve lived a fulfilling life. We did it “right”.

But my boxes aren’t the same as your boxes, dear reader. So which of us is right and which of us is wrong? Does it really even matter? If you’re happy, then I’m happy FOR you. Maybe you want your boxes to be circles Maybe you just want to stop worrying about accumulating accomplishments and actually ENJOY the time you have here on this planet.

I’m not saying living life by your own checklist is wrong. If that’s what truly excites you, then go on with yo bad self. But if you’re like me and just want to step out and BREATHE for a moment or two, then do it. No one is here to live your life but you.

I want so badly for my nephews to grow up in a world where they can stop looking at what society is telling them to do, and do what THEY want to do. As long as it’s not committing crimes, because then Aunt Staci is going to crack the whip. But I just want them to grow up without expectations placed on them other than being decent human beings. I want them to marry who they want to marry (if they even want to), go to school or not go to school, BE who they want to be and never feel the weight of the world on their shoulders.

We can do better, kids. We can break molds and shred boxes by not placing so many expectations out there. We can do the unthinkable and MIND OUR OWN BUSINESS (insert handclap emoji between each word there) so that people feel like they have the freedom to be who they want to be. That’s all we all want anyway, isn’t it?

Nothing is going to change if we don’t recognize the people working to do it differently. Celebrate the rebels and the dreamers. Put your faith in the ones who have the audacity to go for it. They show us that seriously ANYTHING is possible.

Have the audacity. Get shit done.

xo, Staci

Staci Speece